Most couples don't fall apart from rupture. They fall apart from never learning to repair.
An actual step-by-step protocol for finding your way back. Small ruptures or large. The thing nobody taught us. Workbook plus seven short videos, one a day for a week.
Get the Repair Kit · €47What predicts divorce isn't how much you fight. It's how.
After four decades studying couples, Dr. John Gottman could predict divorce with 93% accuracy. Not from how often partners argued. Not from how intense it got. From four specific patterns when conflict showed up.
Criticism. Defensiveness. Contempt. Stonewalling. He called them the Four Horsemen. They're the strongest signs a relationship is heading off course.
Most relationships don't end because love left. They end because nobody was ever taught what to do when conflict arrived.
Every healthy relationship has rupture. The fight that escalates. The comment that lands sharp. That isn't the problem.
The problem is that almost no one was taught how to repair. We watched our parents apologise without changing anything, or freeze each other out for days, or avoid conflict entirely. Then we grew up and brought those exact patterns into our own bedrooms.
The Repair Kit is the moves. Practical. Specific. The kind of thing you can use tonight.
Dr. John Gottman could predict divorce with 93% accuracy. Not from how often couples fought. From how.
Six moves. One framework. Stack them and the rupture closes.
Each one is a short video plus a workbook page. One a day. Don't binge it. Try the move before the next lands. The kit works because each step stacks.
The Repair Map
The framework everything else hangs on.
Holding Their Repair
The move for when they come to you with hurt, so you don't go defensive.
The Repair Sentence
The single most powerful move in the kit. One sentence, used right, works like magic.
The 24-Hour Rule
Why timing matters.
Apology vs Repair
The distinction most people miss. One keeps you stuck. The other actually shifts the pattern.
When repair doesn't work
The bonus closing video. The boundary case, and what to do then.
A working kit, not a course.
- Seven short videos, delivered daily over a week.
- A printable workbook covering both repair frameworks plus the supporting tools.
- The Repair Sentence, the flagship move that does most of the heavy lifting.
- A bonus closing video on when repair doesn't work, and what to do then.
- Reusable for life. The same kit handles small daily ruptures and the bigger ones.
If you've ever ended a fight without really resolving it.
It's for: Couples who fight, then don't quite know how to come back. Anyone who notices their apologies have lost their impact. Anyone tired of having the same argument multiple times a year.
It's not for: Couples in active crisis around infidelity, abuse, or major trauma. The kit is a protocol, not a substitute for therapy. If you're in that territory, find a therapist first. The kit becomes a tool you can use alongside.
The honest answers.
Does my partner need to do this with me?
No. The most powerful move (the Repair Sentence) is something you initiate. The whole kit works even if you're the only one who learns it.
How long does it take?
The workbook is about thirty minutes to read. The videos are a few minutes each, paced one a day. You can absorb the whole kit in a week. The practice takes the rest of your life.
Is this the same as the Conversation Kit?
No. The Conversation Kit is for connection. A single guided conversation. The Repair Kit is for after rupture. Different tool, different moment.
Will I have to share it with my partner?
Only if you choose to. Plenty of people start by quietly using the moves themselves and seeing what shifts. Most partners notice immediately… even if they don't know what just happened.
The protocol most couples wish they'd learned ten years earlier.
I built this kit because I've watched too many couples end relationships that could have been saved. Not by trying harder. By knowing a few simple tools.
Repair isn't intuitive. Nobody showed us how to do it. So we wing it, get it wrong, and the rupture compounds. Fuck, I didn't even know what repair was beyond just saying sorry. This is the kit I wish someone had handed me at twenty-five.
Nic
The moves nobody taught us.
Workbook, seven videos, two repair frameworks. Yours for life. Use it tonight.
Get the Repair Kit · €47