For the man who wants to be good at being married. And the woman who sent him here.

Start with a three minute quiz.
There's a version for him and a version for her.

Take the quiz 
If you’re him

It’s 10.40pm on a Tuesday. The kids are down. She’s on one end of the couch with her phone and you’re on the other with yours.

You love her. You’ve done more work on yourself than any man in your family ever has. And when she’s upset, you can’t escape that familiar pattern of defensiveness and closure.

The work you’ve done is real. But so is the disconnection in your relationship, and that makes the pattern harder to break.

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WORK WITH ME
If you’re here because of him

You’ve said it kindly. You’ve said it loudly. You’ve left the book on his side of the bed.

I can’t make him do anything, and neither can you. What I can tell you is that a man will often hear from another man what he can’t hear from the woman he lives with. That isn’t fair. It is reliable.

Take the quiz yourself. Then send him his version and ask him what he gets.

And if you’re him, here because she sent you: she still wants this to work. Start there.

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More for you

ABOUT

I'm Nic. Australian, living in Amsterdam with my wife Sarah and our two boys.

For years I had a life that looked right on paper. Good career, a marriage, plenty of mates and fun times. I held it together with drugs, booze and porn, which works about as well as pegging a tent down with sausages.

Then it all unravelled. I ended up travelling for 3,5 years exploring the world and the different healing modalities that would help realign me with the parts of myself I had lost. Until one day I ended up in a room full of men.

I've since spent the last decade since working with men. Hundreds of them. These days it's mostly husbands and fathers, because that's what I am, and my marriage is where I get found out.

My story Work with me

WORDS OF TRANSFORMATION

Testimonials

  • — DIEGO M.

    “When I first started with Nic and we set our goals I wasn't sure how I was going to achieve them. I wanted to embody my masculine, be more grounded and stand in life as a Man, not as a Boy anymore.

    Nic made magic. He took me to places where I was not wanting to see in a clear, lovely and compassionate way. Things started to change. I thought my relationship was over, and we recover from ashes. Nic guide me to feel and act from the core.

    Now, I feel empowered in life, I feel confident in myself, more conscious, more aware and less reactive. I think every man should do it's own Men's Work journey sometime in life and Nic is absolutely a master on this.”


  • — JAY D.

    “I found Nic on Instagram after following some breadcrumbs my partner had left months earlier. His videos immediately resonated. He felt both wise and familiar, like someone I had known for years. I had tried therapy before but struggled with the lack of personal understanding, which felt disconnected.

    I’m grateful I trusted my intuition during a difficult time in my life and relationship. Nic understood my struggles, encouraged me to go deeper, and held me accountable with practical actions that helped me move beyond my comfort zone and into alignment with my authentic self.

    He was generous with his wisdom and guided me to let go of something that had been holding me back in a major way. Sessions often felt like chatting with a mate, yet always led to meaningful insight and action.

    I’m deeply grateful and would recommend Nic to anyone ready to do the work and create real change in themselves and their relationships.”

  • — FRANCES.

    “NIC, I CAN’T FIND WORDS TO EXPRESS HOW I FEEL. EVEN IN THE WILDEST OF MY DREAMS, I DIDN’T EXPECT THIS LOVE AND HAPPINESS FROM WITHIN. FOR SOMEONE WHO STRUGGLED WITH ANXIETY IT’S A MIRACLE. THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART. YOU HAVE A UNIQUE GIFT TO OFFER THIS WORLD.”

  • — TIM B.

    “OVER THE LAST THREE MONTHS, NIC HELPED ME TO UNDERSTAND WHAT WAS HOLDING ME BACK IN LIFE. ALLOWING ME TO SEE WHAT WAS NECESSARY TO LIVE MY BEST LIFE. IT WASN’T EASY, BUT IT SERIOUSLY CHANGED MY LIFE!”

SIX MONTHS, YOU AND ME

Twelve calls.

WhatsApp voice message access in between.

We work on what is happening both at home and internally. The fight you had on Sunday. Why you stopped initiating intimacy. The sex you want but don’t have. How you swore you would never be like your father, and yet you somehow cannot stop it. Your core childhood wounds and how your woman triggers them perfectly. Your shadows. Your unconscious patterns. Your lack of alignment with life and the heavy burden you carry that you don’t know what to do with.

€5,000, or six payments of €900.

I take twenty men a year.

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OTHER WAYS IN

UNION

Seven weeks for couples, run by me and Sarah. Next round is October 2027.

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THIRTEEN PINES

If what you’re missing is other men, start here. We run men’s and father circles every month, workshops, retreats and trainings.

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