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About NIC
Men have a habit of waiting until the eleventh hour before they change. When the sickness hits. When the job collapses. When the marriage cracks open. When the addiction finally takes hold.
It’s often only when life strips us bare that we start to listen.
The masculine grows through challenge, and there’s no greater challenge, or blessing, than being forced to begin again with clear eyes and an open heart.
Like many men, Nic reached a point where the only relief came through distraction. Drugs, alcohol, porn. When the life he had built became too heavy to bear, everything else began to fall apart. The only way out was through. Facing what he had resisted revealed the truth: resistance is the doorway to evolution.
What began as a personal journey of healing and self-discovery has become his life’s work. Over the past decade, Nic has worked with hundreds of men across the world, guiding them to peel back layers of conditioning and reclaim their depth.
His work is devoted to helping men heal their relationship with themselves and others, cultivate clarity and confidence, and reconnect with the power of purpose. Men who work with Nic learn to live from their heart, anchored in their spine, embodied, present, and aligned with truth.
My story
I was born…
Childhood“Communication was top-notch and the final outcome was even better than we imagined. A great experience all around.”
ADOLESCENSE
“Every detail was thoughtfully executed. We're thrilled with the outcome.”
NowMY STORY
Raised in Melbourne, Australia. I was 10 when a group of friends at school camp pinned me down and stripped me naked. They took a photo of me and had it developed at K-mart. They then shared it around the school. It broke me more than I could fathom at the time. I didn’t tell anyone, because I didn’t want to lose them as friends.
When I was 16, full of shame and the need to please others, I lost my virginity whilst drunk at a party to some girl who wanted it more than I did. I couldn’t get it up, told a friend, and he went and shared it around the school. My trust in boys / men was destroyed and the deep shame ruined my sex life and my confidence for the next 17 years.
In 2006, I left Melbourne to study architecture in Perth. It was like a clean start. No one knew who I was, so I had the space to become the version that felt most authentic. It was the first time I truly felt on purpose. I loved what I did, I finally loved life, and from that place, I met the girl I would eventually marry.
I graduated and moved to New York in 2009 with my girlfriend so she could model. However the financial crisis was in full swing and the only job I could get was a bartender at a vegan diner. I was 26 and she was 21 when we got married a year later. I also took up taking drugs with a finance mate to pass the time. I went from on purpose and loving life, with very little responsibility, to getting high multiple times a week.
We moved to Berlin in 2011 where I started working full time as an architect, only to discover I really didn’t like it. I started partying harder so I didn’t have to feel the unfathomable depths of pain I was in. Beautiful wife, beautiful apartment, solid career and I was suffering hard. Premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, porn addiction, a lack of purpose, emotionally numb and hammered every weekend. In 2014, my marriage unsurprisingly fell apart.
I went on a 5 week holiday at the end of 2015 to try and gain some clarity. Based on nothing more than a series of undeniable synchronicities, I spent 11 days in a dark room and realised how truly fucked up I was. A few weeks later I drank ayahuasca for the first time and finally cracked the armour that was holding in all the pain. I went to the jungle seeking more liberation where I realised that at 33, I needed to start my life over. To burn it all down and start from a clean slate.
From a place of deep curiosity and the potential of healing myself further, I began to explore every modality that called me. As if they were bread crumbs from God, I listened with great anticipation. I started meditating heavily, doing stints of silence in Mexico, where I then learned of tantra. This led me to try semen retention for the first time whilst in a 40 day silent retreat.
I discovered fear was the greatest compass in life, and my 5 week holiday turned into a 3.5 year odyssey. We got divorced and I kept traveling. Ayahuasca led me to meditation, which led me to tantra, and eventually kambo, which led me to breath work. Iboga came from left field and crushed me. Then in Mexico I met a tantrika who healed my sexual dysfunction and showed me how to have full-bodied orgasms. This inspired me to fly to Thailand to train with Mantak Chia, then India for more neo-tantra shenanigans. I deeply embedded myself in the medicine and tantra space, before I finally stumbled across men’s work. Realising it was the thing that I needed more than anything else, and the thing I was missing this whole time.
In 2019 I moved back to Berlin and started a men’s circle. I was still working as an architect, until COVID took my job. It was the nudge I needed. My circle kept growing and I started running small workshops on things I had learned while traveling. At the end of 2018, I had also discovered John Wineland and absorbed everything he put out. I started with his online programs, until I could afford his in-person men’s program. It was during one of his retreats in the desert I realised my deep mistrust of men, the pain they had caused me and the shadows that created. This work healed those wounds. It also introduced me to some of the greatest men I know. I completed his 1000 hour teacher training last year. Since my modest little Berlin circle, I have run workshops and retreats in 19 different countries.
In 2021, I did a vision quest. A deeply powerful experience that pushed me closer towards that current evolutions’ final boss. The sun dance. A process I feared more than anything I had ever attempted. Beyond anything I ever imagined I could attempt. More than just an indigenous rite of passage, it is a powerful prayer. A series of ridiculous synchronicities later, and I could no longer deny my fate. Last year completing my four year commitment that helped manifest everything beautiful I have in my life.
I read a quote recently “How magical to be overwhelmed by a life I once dreamed of.” A father of the most beautiful son, with another on the way. Engaged to my Queen. Living a life of purpose. I fucking love what I get to do, helping men heal and evolve, helping women understand men and helping couples build powerful relationships. All the while still traveling the world, just now with my little family. As overwhelming as it can get, I remember years ago dreaming for this life. And not a second goes by that I am not grateful for it.
To be continued…
"What you resist is the gateway to your next evolution."
— Nic Warner
An Invitation to
THE WORK I OFFER
Today, I work with men through one to one mentorship, group containers, community, workshops, retreats, and initiatory experiences. I also support women and couples in understanding masculine and feminine dynamics, intimacy, polarity, and relational healing.
My philosophy is simple.
Growth happens outside the comfort zone.
Fear is the compass.
This work will challenge you. That is where the gold is.
