Thirty questions most couples never ask each other.
A seven-session deep dive for couples ready to know each other the way they used to mean to. Not one night, a month of them. Workbook plus nine short videos.
Get the Deep Dive · €47Every long relationship has a layer of things you haven't quite said.
Small truths. Things you used to tell each other and stopped. The real answer to a question you've stopped asking.
Most couples never do this kind of work because it feels too big. They sit down to “have the conversation” and either nothing real comes up, or way too much does and one of them shuts down. The Deep Dive solves that by chunking it. Thirty questions across seven sessions. One a week. The depth is in the integration, not the speed.
Each session goes one layer deeper. By Session 6 you're in places most couples never reach together.
Each session goes a layer deeper than the last.
One session a week is the sweet spot. Don't rush it. Some sessions you'll want to go faster. Take your time. Let what comes up settle before the next one.
Opening the Ground
Setting the container. Why we're doing this and what we want from it.
Small Truths
The things you've stopped saying. The five-percent honesties that change the texture of a relationship.
Safety & Edge
Where you feel safest with each other. Where the edges are. What's still avoided.
History & Appreciation
The story of you. What you've built. The specific things you've never quite thanked each other for.
Desire & Body
What you want, what you've stopped asking for, what your body is telling you that you've been withholding.
Fear & Shadow
The things you're afraid to say. The patterns that have been running you. Most couples never reach this together.
What We Are Building
The closing session. The shape of what you're choosing now, on purpose.
A month of real conversations.
- A printable 30-question workbook across 7 sessions.
- Nine short intro videos, one per session plus a welcome and a closing.
- The Art of Listening, the page that changes how you actually hear each other.
- A closing ritual to integrate what comes up.
- One purchase. Reusable for life.
If “we should talk about that” has become a running theme.
It's for: Couples who've been together long enough that “we should talk about that” has become a running theme. People ready for ongoing depth, not a single weekend retreat.
It's not for: Couples in active crisis. Session 6 (Fear & Shadow) can open things that need a therapist in the room. If you're in a fragile place, please get that support first.
The honest answers.
How long does this take to do?
Plan for a month. One session a week is the sweet spot. You can go faster, but most couples need time between sessions for things to settle.
What if we get stuck on a session?
Stop. Come back in a week. Some sessions, especially Fear & Shadow, open more than you can close in one sitting. (The Repair Kit is well worth having on hand.) That's data. If you need outside assistance, get it.
How is this different from the free 21-Day Intimacy Challenge?
The 21-Day Challenge builds the muscle. The Deep Dive is the depth practice once the muscle is there. Many couples do the challenge first, the Deep Dive second.
Can I do this alone?
You can read the questions alone. You can't do the Deep Dive alone. This is built for two.
The conversations that only happen when you give them structure.
I built the Deep Dive because I kept watching couples have profound conversations during weekend retreats, then not be able to recreate the depth at home. So I made the conditions transferable.
Thirty questions. Seven sessions. One month. If you give it the time, this will be the most honest your relationship has been in a long while.
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Seven sessions. Thirty questions.
The workbook, the videos, and the month that changes how well you know each other.
Get the Deep Dive · €47